The practice of attachment parenting is an offshoot of natural parenting. It is known by its practitioners as gentle parenting or intensive mothering. This is the parenting approach that's in fashion right now, inspired by Gina Ford. She was once revered as a parenting legend. A new generation has taken offense at Ford's parenting approach. This article will outline the basics of attachment parenting and its most important concepts.
Unsecure attachment
The term "insecure parenting" refers the a pattern of parent behavior that fosters a lackluster connection between child, caregiver. This term is derived from attachment theory and refers to a parenting style that does not have a single attachment figure or monotropy. Secure attachments are those where a child has a strong preference to have a primary caregiver. They can feel upset when they are separated from them. Secure attachment styles are able to build healthy relationships with others. Insecure attachment styles can make children less secure and more unstable.
Contact between skin and skin
You can start skin-to-skin contact immediately after your baby is born vaginally. If the baby was delivered via cesarean section then you need to wait until you can return home to practice skin–to-skin touch. However, you can continue to practice it as soon and as often as possible. For a strong bond to be formed with your child, you need skin-toskin contact after your baby is born.
Breastfeeding
British parents are increasingly using attachment parenting and breastfeeding. This encourages close skin-to–skin communication and breastfeeding for years. Benefits of breastfeeding include better nutrition and stronger bonding with your child. Fathers are also important in bonding. Dr. Sigmund Fréud believed that infants prefer their mothers as early as their infancy. But fathers who provide oral care for infants are more likely than not to form an attachment with their child.
Self-regulation
Attachment parenting is a way to teach your child self-regulation. Children who are able to form a secure attachment with their parents will be able to use the same regulation strategies in the outside world. This process takes time to develop and a child needs a partner to help them manage strong emotions. Parents can encourage self-regulation among their infants by listening to what they are saying and responding accordingly. If your child has a hard time regulating their emotions, they should seek help from a professional who can provide guidance and support.
Evidence for attachment parenting
The good news is that attachment parenting has solid evidence to support its practice. Research shows that children who have loving parents are more likely than their peers to live well and be happy. But, attachment research is still at the beginning of its journey. Attachment research has missed an important aspect: adult use of their children to form attachment figures.
FAQ
Why are some children not following their parents' directions?
Children naturally want to learn and are curious. They are also naturally inclined to seek out and please adults, as well as avoid punishment. They may not be able to self-discipline themselves if they aren't clear on why they must follow certain rules.
Children must be taught the importance of rules and how they can be broken.
They must realize that following rules does NOT mean they will lose their freedom. It just means that they will be safe and happy.
They will begin to understand if you clearly explain it to them.
Here are some tips for training your children:
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Explain to them why the rules are important.
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Teach them how to deal with consequences.
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Encourage them to learn self-control
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Have fun.
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Don't expect perfection.
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Encourage them ask questions.
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Praise effort rather than results.
What should first time mothers know?
First-time moms must understand the amount of information they need to master. They must also realize that they are not the only ones on this journey.
Many other women have been there. These women have learned from their mistakes.
These women will offer support and encouragement.
They'll be less isolated as they become mothers.
What do you do when you have a newborn?
A baby isn't just a little bundle of joy. You must give it constant care. You need to know how to feed a baby properly.
You also have to make sure they are safe from harm. This includes protecting them against falling objects and potentially dangerous situations, such as fire.
It is important to be attentive to your baby's needs when you have it in your arms. Babies have different sleeping habits than adults. It is important to be able to change diapers as well as clean up after babies.
You might consider hiring someone who can help you with the housework, while you look after your baby. You can bond more with your child this way.
It is important to be prepared for the unexpected. Most of the time, you will be tired. Resting is vital to your ability to care for your baby.
It's okay to let go of control sometimes. Keep in mind to get back up as soon as possible. If you do not, it could cause injury to the baby.
Remember that babies don’t always cry for food. Sometimes babies cry out because they are scared, lonely, or uneasy.
You need to be aware of what makes them happy. If they seem upset, talk to them.
If they don’t respond, comfort them.
Make sure your baby has a safe place to play. They should be kept free from clutter. Take care of dirty toys and clothes.
And don't leave food lying around.
Remember that babies are very sensitive to smells and sounds. Keep your baby away from loud noises.
Keep your voice low. When interacting with your child, use gentle touch and a low voice.
You can also sing to your baby to encourage him or her.
But don't sing too loudly. Your baby will hear you even at night.
Bright colors will be a favorite color for your baby. Brightly colored sheets can be used with blankets and sheets.
Use harsh chemicals on your skin. These chemicals can cause irritation to the delicate skin of your baby.
Also, avoid wearing perfume or cologne. The scent could alter your baby's senses.
Last but not least, make sure you give your baby lots and lots of hugs. Babies love physical contact.
This helps them build trust in each other.
Statistics
- Most adults will become parents at some point in their lives (i.e., around 89.6% of the adult population worldwide; Ranjan, 2015). (positivepsychology.com)
- Students from authoritative families were likelier to say that their parents–not their peers–would influence their decisions (Bednar and Fisher 2003). (parentingscience.com)
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How To
How to manage ADHD in children
ADHD is a disorder that affects attention span, motor skills (impulsive control), and hyperactivity. The symptoms may include restlessness, impulsiveness, difficulty paying attention, trouble listening, being easily distracted, fidgeting, and squirming. ADHD children also have trouble sitting still and moving around too often. They may act without thinking and get into trouble because they cannot stop themselves. ADHD doesn't necessarily make your child dumb or stupid. Many ADHD people are very intelligent and successful.
Children with ADHD often learn best when there are clear rules and limits. If you notice any signs of ADHD in your child, talk to his doctor. His doctor may recommend medication, including Ritalin (methylphenidate), Adderall(amphetamine), and Concerta (atomoxetine). Some doctors recommend counseling to parents and teachers. Others prefer only medication.
If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD, he may benefit from a special education program. This type of school helps students with learning disabilities and ADHD. It includes individualized instruction and therapy designed to improve academic performance. Behavior management training should be provided to your child. This includes positive reinforcement techniques, such as rewards or consequences.
You do not need special training to work with a child with ADHD. It is all about patience. Teaching your child patience is all that's required. Also, try to understand why your child acts in certain ways. For example, if your kid seems to lose interest learning, ask him why. Your child can learn by having fun with TV and games.
Stress management can be made easier by teaching your child relaxation techniques and other stress-busting methods. Encourage your child to take breaks in stressful situations. Teaching him how to manage emotions and cope with them is a good idea.
Be patient with your child when he starts school. You can help him adapt to new environments and routines. You can't expect him overnight to adjust. Give him multiple chances to master new tasks.